threat (noun) a statement of an intention to inflict pain, injury, damage, or other hostile action on someone in retribution for something done or not done.
My first threat came from 8 year old David, an ardent admirer at
primary school. He threatened to kiss
me in front of the boys while I was escaping his advances in the
playground. The next time I was
threatened I was 14 and at secondary school.
This threat was not so benign and involved cigarettes behind bicycle
sheds.
My most memorable workplace threat was from an erstwhile
colleague - an unhappy pale-faced man who resented having to work with a
woman. His threats were overtly verbal
and thinly veiled. Sadly he never put
anything in writing as he knew exactly how far to push it.
My next experience of being threatened came from a
unexpected source. My Mother did not
want me to go through with a house purchase in an area that she considered
beneath me. Her way of dealing with this
was to call, at a late hour of the night while my child was sleeping. "I will never speak to you again if you
go through with this" was delivered in the kind of chilled tones that
remind you of a mafia movie. I bought
the house and she is still not speaking to me but this time over some other more
imagined slight.
At work I have been threatened with demotion once and the
sack twice. I was working for a particularly
insecure manager the first time and the threats were issued behind closed doors. I gently laughed it off and told no one but I
was deeply worried by this. I was a
single working mother with nothing to fall back on. Happily nothing came of it
but I could not escape this manager. Deliverance
had to wait for his retirement. The second time I was threatened with the
firing squad came from a more senior source.
The person issuing the threat was a newly appointed interim director of
human resources. I could barely
understand what she was saying as I was too busy trying to put my mobile on
record. The person on the other side of the desk wearing a Paul Smith suit and
a fascistic grin was telling me to get ready to clear my desk. On autopilot I asked her to put it in writing
so that I could inform my solicitors of the grounds of my prospective dismissal. Again nothing came of it and I never learned
what my crime was.
Threats have all one thing in common: a wish to exert power
and control over the person. The most
effective threats are psychological in nature and come from those who perceive themselves to be powerful. In fact threats are made by the
desperate and the desperately needy. Threats are part of the bully's
arsenal. I hope you do not receive any threats today,
this week, this year or ever.
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